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From the famous lines of Carrie, Samantha, Miranda and Charlotte of Sex and the City… and of course, my thoughts. (no one can keep me from blabbing! =D)

1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay. <and vice versa>

2. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. <yep. he should do it himself! sit back, relax, watch him muddy the already murky waters..>

3. If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a man’s character, leave him alone. <i disagree. no one’s perfect. it’s a matter of asking yourself if you can live with his character flaws. >

4. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. <love yourself, so you can give more love. don’t allow your spirit to be killed.>

5. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that’s not meant to be. <but how do you know it’s not meant to be?>

6. Don’t force an attraction. <so if a man looks at a woman and his first impression is “hmm.. pwede!”, take it nice and slow, one day at a time… ;-)>

7. Slower is better. <so sooo true. on second thought, slower in terms of what?>

8. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. <been there, done that>

9. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no you can’t “be friends.” A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend. <well said!>

10. Have faith in God regarding your relationship, but don’t let faith make you stupid. God does things decent and in order. <He has His reasons>

11. Don’t settle. <i know>

12. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. <*wait-and-see mode*>

13. If he keeps changing his mind about the relationship–take that as a BIG sign that he is unstable. Do you really want to be with a man like that? <don’t ask me, i might answer! haha>

14. Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.”; You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. <my point exactly>

15. Honorable men take care of their business and aren’t involved in a whole lot of mess. <let’s go settle that long list on top of tita norma’s fridge!>

16. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. <i hear you!>

17. There’s only one ‘reason’ a man dumps you; he doesn’t want you. <what’s not to want? bwahahaha!>

18. Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? < hmmm… i’d better start stalking that special someone! are you sure you don’t have children??? =P>

19. You really do have to kiss a few frogs before finding the prince. <can a prince have warts?>

20. Always put yourself and your happiness first. <is this not selfishness? is this just right?>

21. Always have your own set of friends separate from his. <no, white knight, you can’t be friends with “ms.-cute-sya-at-type-ko-ang-porma-nya!” hmp.>

22. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. <what if i do and he doesn’t listen? what if ’speaking up’ is construed as ‘fighting’? isn’t that frustrating? sometimes, it’s better to just shut up and walk away>

23. If he doesn’t call, he just isn’t that interested. <men call when they feel that the sand is slipping from their fingers. too late.>

24. Be honest and upfront. <yeah, and be “glorified” as the evil woman. tsktsk, angst doesn’t become me>

25. Know when to cut the cord, don’t be strung along. <cut it when there is still respect left. sever the ties when you’re no longer happy. you are not in a relationship to be miserable. yes, there may be pain now, but it’s less today than tomorrow. choose the lesser evil.>

26. Don’t fall for the “I’m confused role”. Remove yourself from the situation to let him figure things out (but don’t wait for him, move on). <can’t relate>

27. If you want to have a clue as to how he will treat you, watch how he treats the WOMEN in his family (not just mom). <kaya wag mong aawayin si JS!!>

28. There’s more than physical abuse, there’s emotional and mental abuse. If he causes any of them…flee. <you’re telling me.. lesson already learned.>

29. You cannot change a man’s behaviors. Change comes from within. <allan will certainly have a reply to this. he once told me that it’s rare for a person to change. it’s others’ perception of that person that changes.>

30. Don’t let him place rules on you that he is not willing to follow himself — double-standard. <as i always say, “what’s good for the goose is good for the gander.”>

31. Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are…even if he has more education or in a better job. <know your worth!>

32. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. <but let him treat you like a goddess.>

33. Demand respect and if he can’t give it, he can’t have you! <on the other hand, respect must also be earned, right?>

34. Don’t compete with other women, but be aware that men are attracted to what they see. <so does it mean that i can ogle men too? see item #30>

35. If you think he is cheating, he probably is. Confront him right away and if you feel he’s lying, let him go. <i think this is too much. with the level of my paranoia, i’d end up not being with someone at all. hahaha.>

36. Actions speak louder than words. <don’t be with someone who’s all talk>

37. Never let a man define who you are. <if he can’t accept you as you are (stinky butt and all), it’s probably time to let go.>

38. Never rely on a man for compliments, look to yourself for that. <but it wouldn’t hurt if he tells you that you look smashing every once in a while.>

39. Never borrow someone else’s man. <yeah! snatch him! *kidding*>

40. If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you. <eh?>

41. Just because he says he loves you, doesn’t mean that he won’t hurt you and it doesn’t mean that you are meant to be with him. <i know. but if he loves you and you love him back, work at it so that in the end you can say "we were really meant to be.">

42. To use painful hard-won wisdom — ‘get it right’ the next time. <will do!>

43. Know that you deserve to be the number one person in the life of the #1 person in your life. <i believe i am. i just hope that he can bear with me during my doubting episodes (which is, like, everyday? hahaha.>